Friday, November 21, 2014

The Apostles Pattern of Communication that We Should use in our Lives

       The Apostles of our church have a specific order in which they direct there meetings each week. There order in which they follow is very important and we are able to learn a lot from them if we use this order in our lives whether it be marriage or with roommates. To start off the Apostles always have a specific spot in which they will meet and they have a certain time set aside for it. They hold their meetings every week in the temple. This is their holy area but we are able to conduct these meetings in our homes as well because they are a holy area. The specific order that they follow will be explained below in these six steps. I will also state the importance of using this pattern in our own lives and marriages.

1.       The Brethren always get to the meeting a little bit early so they are able to express their love for one another. They are able to really understand each other and get to know the things that are going on in their lives as well as their family’s lives. We should do this so we are building a strong relationship with our spouse and those around us. If we don’t truly care about one another then how are we supposed to get to a consensus?
2.       They then begin with a pray to start off the meeting. This brings the spirit into the room and makes it so they are able to follow upon what Heavenly Father wants them to do and not just there selves. This is very important because we need to be wanting what Heavenly Father wants for us and not be egocentric.
3.       After the prayer they talk about the agenda. They don’t just get to the meeting and say, ‘well what do you want to talk about today’. They have specific items that they need to talk about and cover. When they cover them they do it with openness and an objective. This is very important because we need to know what we are having the meeting for and we need to both be on the same page. This will make life easier. Brother Williams suggested having a piece of paper on the fridge and when we run into things throughout the week that we would like to talk about we should write them down. If as we go throughout the week and what we wanted to talk about has been fixed or taken care of we are now able to cross it off of the list. The list will help each other to understand better what each other’s feeling are and what principles they need to work on together. The Brethren have an objective and openness which is what we should have as well. Our objective that we should strive to get to it finding the truth in what the Lord wants to happen. Our openness should not be brutal honest but we should be open enough that we are able to accept what your spouse thoughts are with an open mind.
4.       The next step is to discuss everything to a consensus with regard to what the Lord wants. Consensus is different form compromise. Coming to a consensus means that everyone is able to come to the same decision rather than bending one another’s idea to get to a compromise. This is also shown by taking time to understand what everyone thinks and has a say. We are counseling together not just delegating to one person. We are all in this together and we should be happy in the answers that we come to.
5.       They also end with a prayer. This helps everyone to continue to have the spirit with them and we should be thanking Heavenly Father for giving us the answers and being able to come to a consensus about the items we talked about.
6.       Like at the first of their meeting they take time to be able to talk to each other about their personal lives and express their love for one another. To do this at the end of each meeting they have refreshments. This helps bring everyone closer and to understand each other better. We should always do something to express our love for our spouse at the end of meetings. This will help us to remain close and to build a stronger relationship with them.


This process is very important in communication and problem solving in marriages. We should all strive to follow this pattern that has been shown to us. It will help us in communication with each other.

No comments:

Post a Comment