We Shouldn't be so Quick to Give Up On Our Marriage

                A significant item that I have learned about divorce is that there are actual stages of divorce. These stages are: emotional, legal, economical, co-parental, community and psychic.

If we ever start to have an emotional disconnection we need to do whatever we can to be able to remove this from our marriage. An emotional disconnect is the first thing that happens before people get divorced. A few examples of this is loss of respect and love.

Legal divorce is when the judge signs that papers that legally make you divorced. In some states they make people wait 6 months before the state will legally make you divorced because it has been shown that down the road people who have gotten divorced regret getting divorced. It is also proven that when couples stick it out they become more satisfied in their marriage and are glad that they didn’t get divorced

Economic divorce is the settlement of property. Splitting up all of the property between the couple.

Co-parental is the division of care to your children. The judge determines whether the husband or wife will take care of the children along with visitation rights. This is a very stressful time for the parents as well as the children.

Community divorce is the splitting up of your friends, church and whole community. This not only affects the two of you but also affects those around you that you aren’t related to. It can pull your friends apart from their spouses because it makes them have to pick a side and sometimes they pick opposite sides.

Psychic is regaining your individuality. This is a hard set to accomplish because in your marriage you have hopefully created your lives into one and so you have changed some of your views as well as become somewhat of a new person. When you get divorced you have to then dig through everything that you have created together and decide on who you are without your partner.

I think that by knowing these things and knowing that 70% of divorced couples regret there decision will help us to determine if we should really get out of the marriage or if we should stick it out together and see if we are able to grow closer together and have a more satisfying marriage.